Since when is being honest with a fat patient a medical or even a legal offense? You absolutely won’t believe this outrageous news that comes to us, courtesy of the New Hampshire Leader.
According to the newspaper, a New Hampshire doctor, Dr. Terry Bennett, might be in legal trouble for bluntly telling one of his female patients that she’s fat, needs to lose weight and that her condition could lead to high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, gastroesophageal reflux and stroke.
As the report indicates, the doctor also warned his patient that obese women most likely will outlive an obese spouse and that it’s hard for them to find a new relationship because studies show most males hold negative views of obese women.
What’s the matter with this kind of honesty? Every single bit of it is absolutely true! In fact, if anything, Dr. Bennett wasn’t painting a scary enough portrait of what could ensue as a result of being obese! Being obese could lead to so many kinds of health complications and even an early death.
Well, apparently this particular fat lady — who saw the doctor five or six times — just couldn’t handle her doctor’s honest approach. It seems that she’d rather get her physician in trouble than take responsibility for her own actions and join a support group or quit quickie carbs, etc.
Now, according to the reports, she had the audacity to file a complaint with the New Hampshire Board of Medicine even though the physician bent over backwards to placate the fat woman and sent her an apology letter.
But, the matter has gone up to the Attorney General’s Administrative Prosecution Unit. That organization had the audacity to suggest a settlement agreement that would have had Bennett attend a medical education course and admit that he made a mistake. He declined.
I don’t blame him a bit. It sure doesn’t sound like the doctor engaged in anything that’s illegal, negligent or unprofessional.
Unless this story was reported entirely wrong, I have never heard of anything more preposterous.
This woman should just put her energies into losing weight to enhance the quality of her life rather than get her honest doctor into trouble.
How well I remember when my doctor was blunt with me and said, "Connie, if you don’t quit sweets and simple carbs, you’ll never feel better!" I thank God for that lucky day that my doctor was so honest with me! This woman should be grateful rather than moan and groan about her doctor’s efforts to save her life! If your doctor can’t be honest with you, who can?
What do you think of this story?
7 thoughts on “Doctor in Trouble for Telling Woman She’s Fat!”
What I was amazed at is that in light of the obesity epidemic that more doctors don’t prompt more of their patients to lose weight. In fact, it was only after asking my doctor myself how I can do something about my weight that it I was given a name of a dietitian to help me, even though, at the time, I was obese according to the BMI charts (now after losing 30 lbs. I’m just overweight). Maybe it is because of incidents such as this one that doctors don’t reach out themselves, even though obesity is a serious health problem.
What amazes me is that everyone is so down on this woman when we have only heard Dr Bennett’s version of the story. I am an obese person and have been treated with contempt by doctors who know less about obesity than I do. Obese people are despised in general. People kill themselves over it. Do you really think we are just not motivated? Maybe if people keep telling us how unattractive we are we will stop being so lazy and weak-willed.
This woman needs to get her head out of her “poor me” victimized backside and see some reality. She obviously had some sort of “reason” for seeing a doctor in the first place. Even if it wasfor a “checkup” the doctor was giving it to her straight. Which is what she is paying him to do.
I just had my second baby 4 months ago and am nostranger now to the word obese. Never have I been “skinny” but I have been at my healthiest at 150lbs at5’5″. It is no ones fault but my own that I delivered both times at 241lbs. I have started the long road back to healthy and am a little embarassed that my body mass index crept up to 49% fat. Anything above 27% in a woman is obese. It was quite enlightening to look at it like that; in black and white numbers. This week I weighed myself in and am a not-so-svelt 202lbs but i should cross the 200 mark and that is progress. I ate it on and I’ll eat it off. My doctors and midwives did not, nor did Dr. Bennett. This lady needs some therapy.
I’m so sick and tired of FAT people ruining everything for everyone.
You’re obese…
you’re a bit heavy…
you’re FAT!!!
it doesnt matter how you say it, the fact remains that 90% of obese americans are that way because of their lifestyle, both physically and mentally. They are lazy, uneducated, “victims”. ENOUGH ALREADY, GET OFF YOUR A$$’S AND LOSE SOME WEIGHT,
gosh I’m not even a doctor and I know that!!
and Enough of the excuses too!
Ceci, I’ve heard the line before that obese people know they’re obese, but most obese people who _finally_ take real action have had some sort of memorable shock, and a little bit of blunt — even rude — advice might turn out to be that shock. A doctor’s advice is not public rudeness, but rather private advice from a person whose responsibility is your health. If you know more about obesity than the doctor, great, educate him. You may find that what you “know” is wrong, however.
Examples of recent “motivating moments” I’ve read about recently: One guy was told he would die within ten years by his doctor; an author was getting out of his car and his door blocked another driver, who shouted something to the effect of Hey fatso, get out of my way; a governor who wrote a recent diet book sat down in an antique collectable chair at his cabinet meeting and it callapsed into splinters. These people all “knew” they were obese. If you gave them a test and asked, Are you fat?, they would get the answer right. But they didn’t actually do anything until that moment of shock.
I don’t believe it is doctor’s place to tell female patients about their imminent widowhood and their marriage prospects, this doctor’s reasons notwithstanding. Yes, obesity is bad, and yes the woman may need to loose weight for her health – although I read somewhere a relatively recent study that going on a diet in an advanced age has its risks too(not sure how old this woman is). Regardless, were the doctor to tell the woman that her weight as well as her lifestyle put her at risk of early death, that most of her health problems would resolve themselves and she’d feel much better if she were to follow a healthier diet and exercise more and give specific suggestions on how she should proceed, it would be a perfectly sound medical advice. (fad diets like Jenny Craig as this doctor suggested is hardly the best way to loose weight and keep it off – a friend of mine lost a lot of weight this way, only to gain it all back). But commenting on woman’s (un)attractiveness and her chances of becoming a widow (maybe she loves her husband and is afraid to loose him; maybe his comments distressed her because she imagined loosing him) is both unprofessional and inappropriate. Even if it was said in private: the doctor is not a husband, father or a close friend to offer ‘private’ comments about one’s attractiveness to opposite sex and especially the probability of outliving a husband. Yes, we talk to doctors of private matters, but only if these private matters are health-related; our marriage prospects and our statistical chances to outlive our loved ones don’t belong in this category, IMHO.
One’s marriage prospects is also not something a doctor is qualified to comment on – he is not running a matchmaking business. This type of comments is just as likely to ‘shock’ someone to loose weight as to distress someone into eating more.
I have to say also that his comment was just plain stupid: it talks about what might or might not happen for many years to come, it assumes that the woman even wants to look for another husband if her husband dies.
As far as ‘shock’ quality goes, I don’t see how this type of comment is particularly likely to get someone to loose weight. Maybe a young girl, but hardly a mature married woman.
While I think the woman may be overly sensitive and went overboard – most people would’ve just left and found another doctor; maybe told her friends how this docror is rude – I do believe the doctor acted unprofessionally and inappropriately.
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btw – I am fairly slim (5’2″, 123) now, so it is not like I am justifying my inability to loose weight. I did loose about 17 pounds a couple of years ago, and even loosing this relatively small amount took a lot of work – both diet and exercise, so I can imagine how difficult it must be to loose more. It is not easy to loose weight and keep it off; it must be much more difficult for someone who’s been this way for a long time or who has a lot of weight to loose.
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