Feel Special & Enrich Your Life With True Love – Guest Blog Post

True.love.sign You can enrich and energize your life with true love rather than sugar.

You can feel so rewarded and fulfilled in a marriage or committed relationship that those quickie carbs completely lose their allure.

With proactive techniques that you'll learn here, love can fill you up. You won't need to rely on an empty, tragic sugar addiction, which you need to frequently re-fuel with those empty-calorie, health-harming carbs.

Today's special blog post is for single ladies (never-married, divorced or widowed) — or even unsatisfied married women — who long for fulfilling, amazing true love with a remarkable, adoring man.

The author of this post is the charming, long-married, personable psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner, the bestselling author of Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

Dr. Diana, who gave you many helpful tips on my Gab With the Gurus Radio Show last Tuesday, reminisces here about her early days as a child when her mom used sugar as love.

Then, she offers you tangible guidelines to find true love. She wrote this post especially to help you, because we ran into each other and became friends this past weekend at a wonderful Book Publishing 2.0.program.

Incidentally, Dr. Diana is a media darling, who has appeared on Oprah, The Today Show and recently The Mike and Juliet Show, where she facilitated a 90-day Love Challenge. (Sure enough, Amelia, the love mentee, did find someone.) So here's Dr. Diana's post:

Feel Special & Enrich Your Life with Fulfilling, Nurturing True Love — Not Unfulfilling, Unsatisfying Sugar by Dr. Diana Kirschner, the bestselling author of Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

When I was a child, my mother often showed her love by secreting me away from my other siblings and sharing a cookie, a piece of cake or candy just with me. In fact, she stressed that she was sharing it with me because I was so special. I certainly felt special—even though the sugary love drug usually made me sick to my stomach. (Ring a bell?)

Guest Post Continues — Feel Special & Enrich Your Life with Fulfilling, Nurturing True Love — Not Unfulfilling, Unsatisfying Sugar by Dr. Diana Kirschner, the bestselling author of Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

My mother’s unconscious actions led to a lifelong, unsatisfying push-pull between sugar and me. Sugar took on so many meanings—the special comfort of my mom, being chosen and being loved. 

And of course, sugar did make me feel good—at least temporarily when it gave me that great initial rush. But once I started dating, if I broke up with a guy, I headed straight for the Ben & Jerry's. Then I'd eat a whole pint or more—to the point of getting myself sick. It became both a reward and a punishment. (Connie tells me that many of you also experience a similar "unrequited love affair" with sugar.)

It took me years to detach from the sugar-equals-love approach. It took me years to learn to love myself enough so that I did not need to put large amounts of sugar in my body as a kind of love drug. It took learning to love myself enough. 

Ultimately, out of that self love, I was able to give myself a wonderful relationship with a caring man—which in turn, steadied me and made it easier to take control over that sugar demon, which used to possess me.

As a psychologist and love expert who has helped thousands of women find lasting love, I have seen that for many women, self-love is the governing mechanism, which determines what they put in their bodies, as well as how they run their love lives. 

If single ladies are caught in a vicious cycle with low self–esteem they will often date guys who disappear or who are not good for them.  When the relationship hits a downtick, they, too, head straight for a sugary fix to help them in their pain. Of course, this act just makes them feel much much worse.

The bottom line, as I point out in my book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love, is that to release yourself from the sugar demon, you need to work on loving yourself. You need to find and cultivate what I call your Diamond (most lovable self identity). Here are 5 tips to bring a loving, fulfilling relationship to you in 3 or less months:

Every day, look lovingly at yourself in the mirror and say 5 positive, adoring, complimentary things to yourself. Do this 3 times a day — in the morning after you wake up, at lunch time (you can even slip away from your desk and do this for a minute or two in the restroom while at work) and then again in the evening (either before or after dinner). If you start the day by giving yourself five compliments, you'll make a shift that
makes it easier to control what you put in your mouth and how you run
your love life. (Instead of seeing your fat, cellulite or wrinkles, you'll notice how kind your eyes
are, how pretty your toes look in those sandals and how much
character and wisdom you have in your face.) 
Take a minute now to close your eyes and remember a time when you felt lovable, as well as comfortable and fully accepting of yourself.
Now give that identity a flattering name like "Amazing Grace" and use that nickname when you talk to yourself.
Journal about what it would look, feel and sound like to live as if you were the person your nickname represents.
Finally, smile and say hello to at least three men (or women) you see today. By being friendly to other people, you'll feel yourself with satisfying interpersonal energy that is more filling than food can ever be. Wishing you love. – Dr. Diana Kirschner

Note from Connie: If you and your single girlfriends live in the New York City area, you can attend The Love in 90 Days Weekend Intensive this weekend (Sat., May 16 and 17) with this this guest blogger, Dr. Diana Kirschner, author of Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love! While this two-day program normally runs $199, if you mention Connie Bennett, you'll receive the discounted rate of $175.

In this dynamic, experiential workshop Dr. Diana takes you through the full 90 day dating program. You will learn:

  • The single most important thing you can do to find love;
  • How to break Deadly Dating Patterns that ruin any chance of lasting love;
  • How to empower yourself through the Dating Program of Three;
  • How to undertake The 'Diamond Self' exercise that increases self-esteem & overcomes shyness;
  • How to create irresistible online dating photos and profiles;
  • Secrets of search engine optimization on dating websites so that your profile comes up early when guys search;
  • And much more!

One happily married student, who attended this workshop, said:

Dearest Diana, I took a risk and followed your coaching and within less than 90 days I met the most amazing man who makes my heart sing. Just think about all the single souls that are about to meet the love of their life because of you! You're amazing! A gift! I will be forever grateful! God Bless You! – Alex Charish

To register now, email Dr. Diana's assistant Heather at heatherlaine@lovein90days.com. Make sure to tell her that you get the Connie discount.

Remember if you're not in New York, you can purchase Dr. Diana's Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

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