Wow! The smartest people are on my mailing list. Yesterday, I sent out my weekly email to the thousands on my list to announce that henceforth, I’ll be calling the first day of the week Start-Again Monday™ instead of Cravings-Crushing Monday.
Before telling you why I’ve renamed it that, I decided to ask my those people why they thought I was renaming the day, Start-Again Monday.
Of course, I was opening myself up to a deluge of emails! Anyhow, since I received so many emails, I’m choosing some of the most clever responses I received.
So to fill you in on this, my question was, Why do you think I’m renaming that first day of the week Start-Again Monday?
Here are the best replies:
Lorene said: “It is because Monday is a new day to start from where you were and got lost, to getting back on track.”
Enid wrote: “Because we all think we can just Start Over on Monday.”
Jan was also dead-on correct: “Compensate for weekend failure.”
John’s reply was so true that it cracked me up: “Because of relapse Sunday?”
Kim realized: “I think it’s because of straying from the diet and workout later in the week, so we say, `I’ll start over on Monday and stick with it this time.’ That’s been my experience many times, anyway.”
Traci replied: “To provide everyone with a reset – to keep trying & never give up. To instill hope and encouragement.”
And K identified a lot: “Can totally relate! We start the week being careful about not having sugar and other good food habits, and by the time the weekend is over, we’ve blown it, so we start again on `start again Monday.'”
I couldn’t have summed up these reasons any better.
If you’re a fan of the TV show, “How to Get Away with Murder,” you remember the episode. Addiction psychologist and former heroin addict Isaac Roa (portrayed by Jimmy Smits) — the therapist for recovering alcoholic Annalise Keating (Viola Davis) — has a relapse and ends up in the hospital.
In short, the therapist got depressed, bottomed out and returned to heroin, his substance of choice.
What happened to Roa’s character in “How to Get Away with Murder” reveals that health care professionals with substance abuse disorders have had their share of relapses, as you can learn from this study and this research project.
Of course, the alcoholics and addicts the therapists are helping often have relapses, too, as this USNews.com article points out.
But I’ve been talking about drugs or alcohol.
Although, the term, relapse, is usually used to refer to people, who’ve fallen off the wagon after a period of recovery from alcohol, illicit drugs, or non-prescribed meds, it’s high time to expand the definition of which substances can hook you.
Indeed, you also can relapse with either sugar and/or processed carbs, as I’ve witnessed with my clients and myself.
Wow, You Related! Read Some of Your Confessions, Then Share Your Tale, Too
Wow, you so related to my tale of shame, embarrassment and self disgust when processed carbs had me under their control.
You knew exactly what I meant when I said that those toxic carbs (movie popcorn, corn snacks and other chips) cast a spell on me.
You, too, have felt Crazy Cravings™, which have led you, too, to do so much Heartbreak Bingeing™ that you gained a lot of weight quickly.
A little history is in order. Recently, I confessed to the thousands of people on my mailing list, which you, too, can join that back in late 2012 to mid-2013 after the death of my Mom and the grueling last year with her, during which my cancer-ridden mother inadvertently angrily abused, belittled and betrayed me, I mindlessly rushed to nutrient-poor quickie carbs. Months later, I’d gained 21 pounds.
At last, four-plus years later, I have the courage to easily confess to my extended Carb Relapse without shedding a tear, getting choked up or feeling mortified. I’m now vulnerably but confidently confessing that for some six months after Mom left this earth that I mindlessly, powerlessly shoveled processed carbs into my mouth with an irrational fury and velocity and completely blew my diet.
After coming back from an awesome Tony Robbins mastermind, I felt moved to write to the confessed to my list.
Read some comments I received from people who felt fed up with having sugar or carb relapses. I’m only using first names to protect the people, who’ve slipped with sugar or carbs.
One email was more poignant than the next. Linda wrote:
Thank you for being truthful and honest with your readers.
I have been on a detox diet, lost a bunch of weight and am now trying to figure out my new eating.
Unfortunately, I am a sucker for free food.
Yesterday I was at a wine tasting fundraiser and overate because there was food that I hadn’t had in a long time and “wouldn’t be able to eat again.” Tonight I went to a networking event and the same thing happened.
You would think I lived in a 3rd world country with no access to good food. (Note from Connie: My emphasis.)
FOMO, feeling deprived, feeling like I deserved it……., all feelings that I didn’t know how to handle.
I’m terribly afraid that my hard work will be undone. This all or nothing thinking has got to go!
Would love to hear how you got back on track. Thank you!
So tonight I need to get some zzzs so I can drive up early to Pasadena.
I invite you to think about your potentially glorious future, too.
You can create an awesome one in which you’ll find it easy to Crush Your Cravings for junk foods.
So please know that I’m off thinking about you often. In fact, soon on my Gab with the Gurus Show, I’ll be introducing you to some awesome products and people, who seek to help you to Get a Life that Rocks, as I like to put it.
While you’re waiting for one or both books to arrive, I invite you to listen to the fascinating interviews that I did with Drs. Friedman and Luskin, who both offer fascinating information about the power of forgiveness.
First, I invite you to listen do Dr. Luskin’s take on forgiveness.
Answering one of Your Top FAQ -- Your Easy Cravings-Crushing Monday Pointer
Whenever people meet me, take one of my programs, do private or group coaching with me, they invariable immediately ask me: “Connie, how can I kick my sugar or carb cravings?”
One of the simplest, but most powerful strategies is so easy you’ll be shocked by its effectiveness.
Let me introduce you to my Delay Away Your Cravings Tactic™, which I also call Creative Procrastination™.
In short, Just Delay before you put any sweets or carbs into your mouth–even if all you plan to do is nibble. (As you may know, your good intentions to have just a taste or two can lead to a binge.)
I hit on my Delay Away Your Cravings Tactic back in 1998 when I was reluctantly kicking sweets and refined carbs on doctor’s orders. To this day, I continue to be amazed at how easy, effortless, and darn effective it is.
Think about it: If you mindlessly nosh on fast-acting sweets or much-like-sugar carbs™ (my phrase for processed carbs), you’ll become headachy, wiped out, spaced out, moody, depressed or even angry at yourself, as you’ve revealed in surveys you’ve taken with me.
But what you do in that minute or two after your craving hits can make or break your diet.
In short, if you cave into cravings, it may be bye-bye, weight loss; hello, weight gain.
But I’m determined to help you get over that “Must-Have Sugar Now! hurdle.”
Let’s delve into this Delay Before You Cave into Cravings.
Just think about it: What’s one of the things many, if not most of us, do when we don’t want to do something? We procrastinate.
Usually people think of procrastinating as a bad thing, but you can make it quite powerful, positive and health enhancing.
So when you want to Crush Your Cravings, the starting point is to procrastinate.
Here’s the simple seven-part process to Delay Away Your Cravings. (more…)
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