Cravings-Crushing Monday Feature: I'm Conquering My Fears to Speak to Serve You
The time has come for me to make a deep, dark, vulnerable admission.
I have a deep fear of public speaking. What’s more, I’m utterly terrified to do videos, especially posting them on YouTube.
Unfortunately, my deep fear of public speaking — along with my preference to write and research in private, coach quietly via phone, enjoy peaceful time near the beach, hang out with one or a few close friends or loved ones — is preventing me from achieving my treasured mission and audacious goals, which is to inspire, guide and serve millions worldwide. I’ve looked up a variety of ways to improve your speaking skills but I’m not sure if it will work for me.
In short, my fear of both public speaking and doing videos is in direct opposition to my core beliefs, cherished dreams, and bold vision for the future.
Not giving enough talks is holding me back. And I’m fed up.
It’s high time for me to Stand Up, Speak out and Serve!
Is it time for you, too, to get out, speak and serve?
Since I”m now preparing and training to Speak to Serve™, I’ve decided to create a new column, in which I’ll periodically tell you about my speaking adventures and share insights and tips from heart-centered speakers and authors, who can help those of us with speaking fears. (For instance, I’ve already received wonderful help from the awesome Jeff Walker and Lisa Sasevich, whose tips I’ll share in future posts.)
Why am I finally making a public confession about my speaking fears? (more…)
Please note that since I wrote this post, the issue has been resolved. Woo Hoo!
I’m thrilled to report that the National Speakers Association has abandoned the name Platform, which leaves the wonderful Michael Hyatt able to continue his fabulous work to build their platforms. See Shep’s video annoucement.
Although I greatly respect the National Speakers Association and its many remarkable members, I cannot fathom how a talented brand-name-search committee — which allegedly spent “two years” on this — could have been so in the dark about the amazing Michael Hyatt, who has branded “Platform” in a big way. Or, worse, if they knew about Michael and still proceeded with this move, it’s simply galling.
Although I had initially planned to dedicate much of this holiday weekend to making major inroads on my next book, I felt it important to take time out to stress via comments in the private National Speakers Association Facebook group and in two blogs posts here that Michael Hyatt is the undisputed brand holder of “Platform.”
Please join me to support bestselling author and speaker Michael Hyatt:
Do better Google searches and more substantive research before picking another brand name that may already be taken.
And don’t stomp on the toes of someone, who is, after all, one of your own! Indeed, Michael Hyatt is not only a New York Times bestselling author with a huge platform, but he’s a sought-after, world-renowned speaker, who has done so much to help speakers, authors, bloggers, etc. get their messages out to a wider audience.
Plus, you may have the rare opportunity to be inspired by the influential, life-changing, bestseling author Louise Hay (seen left), who has been dubbed as "the closest thing to a living saint" by a member of the Australian press.
Now, months later, I still cannot rave about it enough! Over the years, I've attended some 20 to 30 wonderful conferences for authors, speakers, bloggers, social media experts and more, but this Movers & Shakers conference was a powerful event that really pulled it all together for me.
"If you feel a calling to serve people and help them transform their lives for the better, then you MUST attend the upcoming Movers and Shakers conference in Toronto. This is a powerful, transformative, life-changing experience that gives you valuable tools, tips and insights, which empower you to be true to yourself and pursue your vision at the same time. As if that's not enough, you also could make the most wonderful friends."
If you're serious about becoming a Mover & Shaker, I strongly recommend that you sign up now for one of these life-changing Hay House Movers & Shakers events. I predict that you'll be enthused, exhilarated and excited when you meet the amazing Cheryl Richardson and Reid Tracy.
By the way, I'm now grateful that I have a deal with Hay House for my next book, Beyond Sugar Shock, which is a follow-up to my first book, Sugar Shock. In fact, I'm now very engaged in the writing process and actually enjoying it quite a bit.
Normally, I don't reveal my vulnerabilities here, on this Sugar Shock Blog. Nor do I share a personal plight, but today, I feel a need to confess to you that I feel like the ultimate Health Hypocrite.
Sure, I eat healthy, wholesome, real foods. Yes, I religiously avoid sugary foods and carbs — and have since 1998 with only a handful of very minor infractions. I don't even smoke anymore. (Inhaling two packs of cigarettes is a thing of the past.) What's more, I've been shunning caffeine since a doctor suggested I do so more than a decade ago. And I don't even chew sugar-less gum or eat candies with artificial sweeteners anymore. In addition, I've triumphed over my diet soda slugging. Plus, I'm huge exercise aficionado. But feeding my body well and moving just aren't nearly enough.
My body craves — as does yours — ample sleep. We desperately need those zzzzzz's.Otherwise, I'm headed for sniffles, sneezing, coughing and congestion.
Well, lately — especially in the last week — I haven't walked my talk. Despite the fact that I know about the wonders of a good night's sleep and I'm even mentioning it as a "Smart Diet Habit" in my next book, I skimped on sleep myself last week. Now that I'm a health coach, I'm not going to indulge in self-blame. Rather, I'm going to use this realization as an opportunity.
The irony is that lately, I've been thinking a lot about and striving to do excellent self-care, because of my training as a health counselor and life coach and because I've been completing Cheryl Richardson's fabulous book, Take Time for Your Life, which was required reading for my life coaching program through iPEC.
I even just bought Cheryl Richardson's latest book, The Art of Extreme Self-Care, this weekend at this remarkable Hay House ouse Movers & Shakers conference. Both books have motivated me to think a lot about how we all will benefit if we devote ourselves wholeheartedly to treating ourselves with respect and reverence, even it it means we have to let go of current projects and disappoint people.
Well, despite my commitment to treating myself right, last week, I neglected my needs when it came to snoozing. You see, I felt compelled to help you you a lot this month. I really wanted to:
Help you have a happy holiday, which is why I wrote and posted 7 Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress on both of my new Huffington Post and Psychology Today blogs.
Present a life-changing, mood-boosting, calming Relieve Holiday Stress teleseminar with master visualization expert Debra Berndt. (As our gift to you, you're even getting an audio replay through the end of the month.)
Help support a friend or two, who is doing valuable work. This week, I spread the word about Donna Sonkin's event tomorrow, which unfortunately I may not be well enough to attend now.
Send send out an email blast to my mailing list about the exciting programs offered.
Plan the 2nd annual Great Worldwide Sugar-Out Challenge in mid January, which includes lining up top experts to join in our 24-hour twitfest and inviting them to add their names to a press release that will go out to members of the media as it did last year.
Send a pitch to The Dr. Oz Show suggesting a show about sugar addiction in January and to invite the producer to book both Stephen (Dr. Sinatra) and myself as well as other sugar experts and sugar addicts to appear on a much-needed episode. (Please help me suggest that we come on as guests to The Dr. Oz Show. And if you're a sugar addict in need of help, feel free to recommend yourself, too.)
Buy a new printer, because my previous one broke down.
Take time to exercise, meditate, do creative visualization, read inspiring passages and lay the groundwork to manifest a loving relationship.
Wow, I'm exhausted just reading my list. Clearly, last week, I overworked, didn't work out enough and ignored valuable sleep time. One day I even put in about 20 hours. Or was it 22?
Clearly, I know better! For goodness sake, I'm both a health counselor and a life coach. People even dub me as the "Smart Habits Girl" (on Twitter), "Smart Habits Coach" or "Sugar Liberator."
But skipping sleep sent me straight to a sore, scratchy throat, hacking cough, a stuffy head and sheer exhaustion. Ironically, recently, I began to research the subject of sleep deprivation for my next book by reading articles such as this one and this one. Now I have to miss two holiday parties tonight because of being sick.
While I'd rather be sleeping now, I'm writing because I really need your help. In return, I will help to bring out the absolute best in you. With your assistance, I could get more sleep, help more people, have more fun, be more energized, take more time for me and lead the kind of balanced life that I help my clients to achieve.
…So I'm currently seeking several part-time independent contractors (2 to 10 hours a week). My goal and intention is to find:
An assistant producer for my Gab With the Gurus radio show (a fun gig!);
2 health writers or bloggers to research, write and post pieces about recent medical studies and other health and lifestyle developments on my Sugar Shock Blog and radio show updates on my Gab With the Gurus blog. The writers also would prepare press releases about upcoming programs to submit to ExpertClick.com (another fascinating project);
A marketing consultant, who can make suggestions about expanding my reach so I can help the people who most need my expertise;
1 or 2 assistants to warmly greet attendees at my talks, make them feel welcome, pass out fliers at a variety of places in New York (or wherever I'm booked) and help line up more talks. (Right now I'm seeking people for my January talks — you just need to be warm, friendly and into serving others);
A tech-savvy person, who can do website updates (on Microsoft Front Page) and/or possibly move my entire Sugar Shock website to WordPress. This person also would set up my new Smart Habits Blog on WordPress before I add too much content on its current site.
Even if you're free of destructive patterns, we can still swap services.
I can coach you so you'll finally realize your dreams. (I can help anyone, but I do specialize in health, wellness and personal empowerment, and, in particular, I work with sugar addicts, stay-at-home moms, small business owners, authors, writers, health counselors, marketing experts.)
In addition, if you need writing or marketing services, I'm your gal.
Here's how it will work. You would devote a designated amount of time each week to help me in one of the above areas. In exchange, I'll either coach you in health, wellness and writing, or I"ll help you to write and/or edit something. Depending on how many hours you work for me, you would get either private coaching or you would be part of one of my Break Free With Connie group coaching programs.
If you're a fellow health expert, please join in the discussion here and on Facebook. Do you, too, feel sometimes like a Health Hypocrite? How? How have you overcome this? I'd love your ideas to improve. (Plus, I'm working on a story for several sites.)
Enough writing. My shoulder and arm are very sore from typing, and I need to sleep, drink liquids, finish my chicken soup, take herbs and supplements and recuperate.
Hope you will take advantage of this amazing offer to help you set and reach your goals, tap into your inner purpose and passion and connect that with your outer goals to achieve extraordinary and sustainable results.
In the meantime, I'm now committing to you, dear readers, that I will conquer my destructive sleep deprivation habits. I need to live up to my "Smart Habits Coach" title. Besides, I know that I can lick this bad habit just as I have all my other bad habits over the years. But feel free to wish me luck!